Hello dear ones, I love this film, as well as The Mask We Live In, and Tony Porters Ted Talk on ¨The Man Box.¨ I´ve read ¨The Myth of Male Power,¨ ¨The Men We Never Knew¨, ¨Iron John,¨ ¨Fire in the Belly¨, and ¨King, Warrior, Magician, Lover.¨ I raised my son as a single mother without yelling at him nor hitting him. At 28 he is fine young man who taught himself not to cry because at 7 the other children were making fun of him. The Culture still got to him even though I was doing my best to teach and model otherwise. As a counselor I work with couples and individuals on compassion, collaboration, self awareness. We look at how to speak the truth in ways that are connective. When I am dating, I invite men to see these films. At first they are so moved. They want to be one of the men doing their Inner Work and making a difference for other men. Later they often say ït is too much work, or too hard, or they go back to distraction patterns.¨ I engage in my Inner Work, going to therapy, workshops, womens groups and more. Is there anything else that I or other women can do to be in support of men without enabling, over giving, perhaps having them feel pressured and finding ourselves resentful. Lovingly, Francesca
Karolina Coates
Hi Francesca. It's so nice to read your comment. All I can think of is that off the back of watching the films you also encourage them to go to men's groups. There are in-person options and online options. There are groups geared towards growth work, and those geared more toward basic connection. So I think there are options to suit all types. And really going to a group is no work at all. In fact, from what I've seen most men come to see group as a highlight of their week. Good luck and thanks for being supportive of men in pursuit of their healing.